I'm sure that we are not alone with the wives and their need to oppress us. The upside is that she won't buy me tools for presents, but I'll buy them for myself when she's not paying attention which is most of the time. She couldn't tell you what I had for years and what I just got five minutes ago. Once, I came back from a PATINA meeting and bought many tools at the tailgate sales and from the auction inside. When I got home, she asked "How much did that cost". Well, I pulled out a few items that cost under $10 and she was already tuning me out and walked away. I was relieved because she would have flipped when we got to $185 I spent on a panel raiser.
We have three accounts, hers, mine, and ours. I always spend from mine.
Good luck Jim! Maybe you'll be surprised.